#Avoidants often feel relief or even happiness after a #discard because distance instantly calms their nervous system, not because the relationship meant nothing. Closeness activates threat for them, loss of autonomy, emotional exposure, expectations, and once they create space their body finally relaxes, which their brain interprets as “I made the right choice.” What looks like happiness is actually deactivation, emotional numbing, detachment, and cognitive justification kicking in to keep them